Let’s face it, women have a reputation of being big time talkers, whether it’s true or not. In “Are Women Really More Talkative Than Men?” Psychologist Matthias Mehl from the University of Arizona completed an experiment that revealed men and women to talk about the same in the course of a day. It just depends on the situation and subject matter.
She Prefers Romance, He Prefers Action!
It turns out that women prefer more conversation on relationships, is anybody surprised? While men prefer sports and gadgets. Women use more pronouns in their preferred subject, men use more numbers. But don’t get caught up in this statistic, there will probably be a new study before we can bat our beautiful eyes. The fact remains that we have a reputation and what is a lady to do when her name is on the line? Especially when she knows women who can and do talk rings around the men in their lives, and she understands the source of the stereotype.
Recognize that you don’t have to fight the battle for the entire gender. Simply learn how to master your own communication. When we talk, our goals range from sharing information, our feelings, our day to sharing our dreams, our business plans and our most pressing needs. However, when it is time to get the vision across in person, online and in print, consider these three quick tips to adding “persuasiveness to your lips (Proverbs 16:23 NASB).” Effective communication requires you to be accurate, be balanced and be clear.
ACCURACY leads to credibility, so make sure that your stats and facts are right. Don’t say you were waiting for an hour when it was 30 minutes. If it was five people in the room, don’t round up to 10. Nail the details.
BALANCE tells the key points up front and still gives you a chance to add the colorful story. But make sure the important information is delivered quickly. Save the funny anecdotes and interesting twists for the end after the main points are made. Start the story by saying, “Everybody is all right, but let me tell you what happened.” Don’t make your eager listener suffer for the important details.
CLARITY requires laser beam focus. Take a few minutes to get clear about the conversation’s purpose. What are you trying to get across to your listener? If your mind is fuzzy about the vision, then your mouth will be too.
It’s the digital age, effective communication is necessary everywhere you turn. Taking the time to tweak our skills with friends and family will make us more effective in business or vice versa.
To read more on “Are Women Really More Talkative Than Men?”, check out the Science 6 July 2007 issue: Vol. 317. no. 5834, p.82 or Science Mag.org.
This article first appeared in Phenomenal Woman Magazine (August, 2010). For more quick tips for effective communication be sure to sign up for the beCLEAR Series.____
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